- Relax, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax.
- Push softly and gently. "There is nothing so strong as gentleness, and
nothing is so gentle as real strength." (Ralph W. Sockman) This is not just a
pleasant thought. It's a great truth. And Kokyu Dosa is a great way to prove it to
yourself and others.
- Don't think of your partner as being a huge, insurmountable object. Think of him as a
little baby. Or a stick figure. Or as the guy on beach before he sends away for the
Charles Atlas course.
- Don't think about pushing your friend over. Just think about moving forward
comfortably, as though nothing is in your way. This is a good metaphor for how to deal
with obstacles in your life.
- You can also learn a lot when you're the person holding on. Hold securely, but don't
use a vice grip. Think of how you might hold a young child's arm when walking near
the road. You want to hold securely enough so he can't dart into traffic, but gently
enough so that it doesn't hurt.
- When holding, just keep One-Point. Don't think "resist". If you' find
yourself being pushed over, don't fight it. Just keep One-Point and let your body move
as a unit, preserving the relationship between your arms and your torso, for example, and between
your torso and your legs. Don't lose in pieces.
- Feel more like you're sleepy than wide awake. Feels more like you're slightly drunk
than completely sober. When you do it right, Kokyu Dosa feels so easy as to be
almost ridiculous. It is a metaphor for making our lives more easy, more comfortable,
more pleasant, and more effective.
- Oh,and by the way: Relax.
"So, what did I just learn?"
A soft, gentle, positive approach yields powerful results. When you practice Kokyu Dosa with
someone who is very good, it is a truly amazing experience. You push or hold as best you can,
yet you always wind up on your back, feeling like you forgot to try, or laughing at the futility
of your efforts. As you yourself get better at Kokyu Dosa, it becomes increasingly pleasant and
fascinating to see how little effort it takes. Enjoy Kokyu Dosa for what it can teach you. But
mostly, enjoy it for its own sake.